I spoke with about 50 colleagues yesterday – quick calls to thank them for all they do and to wish them happy holidays. In many ways, 2023 was a stressful year for many of us and it came up in various forms in our conversations. I was asked by some of them on how I handle work pressure. After a couple of coffees in the morning, I thought I should offer some perspective on this topic.
1. Have safety valves – do not stew in pressure
You need some proven ways – note the plural; one might not be enough – to destress. For me those are – long walks, calling one of my trusted friends, and Carnatic music. There is a 6 mile circuit that I reserve for such walks and it invariably helps calm me down when I need it.
2. Put boundary conditions if you are constrained on time on high risk decisions
I have a mental model that tags the consequences of my decisions two ways – what’s the chance of the risk happening and what’s the impact it happens. Stress gets in the way only on decisions where the risks have a high chance of materializing and the impact is high if it does play out.
Pressure is inevitable when you have to make such decisions with imperfect information within limited time. If I have to take such a decision – I insist on reasonable boundary conditions like “ok let’s do this now – but here is how we will check if it works and we will stop in a month if it doesn’t trend like our hypothesis”
3. Form follows function
I prefer a rigorous debate than a well structured document as the basis of a decision. I do like documenting decisions once we make it though.
Similarly – some metrics have a way of hurting decisions as much as they help. People lose sight of the principle behind the metric and sometimes become a slave of ratios etc to make decisions. So I prefer asking a lot of first principles based questions before I make decisions – and it helps minimize stress because it makes everyone involved think logically.
4. WHY is the critical question, WHAT will follow
Leaders create stress unintentionally when they ask the team something without explaining why they are asking. The more senior you are – the more the risk of you creating unnecessary stress in the organization.
If you have taken the time to hire, train and manage performance of your team – you should have the confidence that if you explain a problem, your team can find solutions. Your job is to find the right question to ask and to explain why solving it is important. If you don’t have the confidence in your team – shift left and solve for the quality of your team as quickly as you can.
5. Eliminate and simplify
Not all problems need a solution with high quality and they don’t all warrant similar effort. Even a given problem can usually be decomposed to find what’s the critical part and what can wait. Eliminating the noise and simplifying the problem statement goes a long way in eliminating stress.
Don’t assume that the person asking has thought through all aspects before asking you. So you should feel validating whether that you think is the crux of the issue is what they also think. I am always grateful when I am challenged by my team when I ask a question. I am very comfortable asking clarifying questions to my boss as well.
6. Know the audience when you communicate
Even the best decisions can lead to additional stress if you don’t think through the answer from the recipient’s point of view. If I have to convert the same information to both the executives in my team and to new hires – I often will need to say it differently. Similarly the response to a client might look differently when it is addressed to the buyer vs someone who is the actual user.
I am convinced that more stress is caused by poor communication than poor decisions.
7. Keep shifting left and make as many things a routine as possible
I used to train dogs for high level competition. Before we start training – my dog and I will go through a certain routine which gets us both into the right frame of mind. Routine helps minimize stress and keeps us focused. High level sports people all have routines they follow.
I have routines in personal life – I wake up at the same time most days, make an espresso, do a two minute training session with my dog, and solve the daily Wordle and then go for my walk. It helps me get into the right frame of mind for rest of the day.
At work – processes don’t die a natural death. That’s a real curse. They don’t even evolve very much and people start hiding behind processes as a their safety thing. Even when they criticise these “bureaucratic processes” – they take it for granted that it’s sacrosanct. A massive amount of stress happens because people don’t kill irrelevant processes. Your job as a leader is to make sure that every process gets critically evaluated and either eliminate or work around the ones that don’t add value.
Similarly – the moment you have a stable solution, make it a routine so that people don’t need to waste their time thinking about it deeply every time. All I would caution is “premature optimization” kicking in. Especially in large firms – there is a tendency to institute process upfront in a top down way. It almost never works – the better idea is to experiment, evolve and then standardize the process.
The shift left often ends up with hard questions about your skills as a leader and whether you have the right team around you. Don’t sit and stew on those – make changes when you are convinced that there is a problem. Bad news doesn’t turn for the better with time without interventions.
8. Learn from everyone around you
There is no monopoly for good ideas. If the marketing team has a good process for recruiting – shamelessly steal it and adapt it for engineering teams. It is much better for one person to solve it and others to adapt than all functional heads stressing over solving common problems from scratch.
I am sure there are more things I should call out – but it’s time to drive to the gym, so I am not going to stress over the rest for now 🙂